What We’re Afraid to Ask is a must-read for survivors of childhood abuse who struggle to reconcile their faith with their past. Board, Fleetwood, and Jones demonstrate how Christianity offers reasonable, honest, and encouraging answers to difficult questions regarding abuse while focusing the reader’s attention biblically and psychologically toward Jesus Christ, in whom there is infinite hope.
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There are many questions child abuse survivors have ... any type of abuse is abuse ... one isn't better or worse than the other ... and everything leaves lasting implications. The worst is when the victim is abused by someone they trust - a parent / spouse / relative / spouse.
Even though the victims don't ask to be abused, they're left with guilt and shame for ages and as a result, insecurity, self-loathing, self-doubt and lack of self-confidence. Often enough their self-esteem is low. This is the same for emotional, physical and sexual abuse. It is due to their abuse, their inability to defend themselves, probably lack of support in case they confided in anyone and most importantly, the abuse who is often an adult instilling that the victim asked for it!
Every victim has problem trusting anyone, accepting anyone's help or letting anyone in ... trust me, I know .. They make changes to their life based on their past and often, end up with disruptive habits.
This book answers several questions those survivors have well into adulthood and those answers are given from Bible or based on Bible. I like that there's a question for each day and the readers can read it as they go ... one for each day. This is a great guide for survivors, counselors, psychologists and individuals who are dealing with abused victims - friends, spouse, partners, siblings, e ~ Sherin Lloyd, GoodReads
When children experience abuse it can shatter their souls and their trust in God. Here's a resource that puts words to the questions that broken hearts wrestle with and offers new thoughts and prayers to open the path of healing. ~ Bill Gaultiere, PhD, author of Your Best Life in Jesus’ Easy Yoke,
"What We're Afraid to Ask: 365 Days of Healing for Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse" is a powerful book that addresses the spiritual and psychological wounds of adults who were abused as children. It is a day by day journey to heal from these wounds and find a deep connection with God. Many survivors struggle with a crushed spirit and the many mental health issues that stem from abuse. If these issues are not addressed everyday life becomes quite the struggle. This book utilizes theology and psychology to help survivors recover from abuse and to deepen the spiritual relationship with God. It is God that helps us to face those issues from childhood and it is Him that heals the wounded spirit. I wish to add a very personal comment to this review. I, too, was an abused child. I was in my late 30's before I could even start to work on my issues. I believed in God but I did not seek His help. One day I fell to my knees and begged for His help. I just was so tired. He led me to a wonderful psychologist and I have a much deeper relationship with God. I have peace in my heart, spirit and mind for the first time in my life. Please allow this book to start you on a journey of healing and a deeper relationship with God. ~ April B. Butler, CASA for Children
"As an adult survivor of childhood sexual abuse and trauma that now advocates for other abuse survivors, I found the book, "What We're Afraid to Ask: 365 Days of Healing for Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse," a must read for those survivors on their healing journeys and beyond. This book is surely going to touch the hearts of survivors who have struggled with healing and had questions about their abuse, God, and faith. In this book they ask the tough questions that so many survivors have struggled with and may be afraid to ask. With heartfelt questions combined with answers in both a psychological and biblical form, the reader will no doubt find this book to be a great resource and reference to read time and time again. I highly recommend this book to any survivors of childhood sexual abuse, especially those who have struggled with their faith due to trauma and abuse suffered as children." Elizabeth Sullivan, Founder and Director of EmpowerSurvivors ~ Elizabeth Sullivan, EmpowerSurvivors
"What We're Afraid to Ask: 365 Days of Healing for Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse" provides a fresh way of looking at what haunts countless souls since childhood. Providing clear examples of how this affliction can be turned around, this book is a gift for all who choose to be empowered by their early life experiences. ~ Mr. David Fishman, author of
"I am a psychotherapist, and ask tough but necessary Q's everyday in my practice. Pleased to hear of your book." ~ Shellie Leger, psychotherapist